Letting Them have Their Moment

I feel like I’m on the verge of having a moment.

Lately, I haven’t been seeing the progress I hoped for—not for myself, and not for my children. It feels like we’re a little all over the place, each of us facing our own challenges at the same time. As a parent, that’s one of the hardest things to sit with.

I find myself asking, what can I do to help them?

What can we do as a family to move forward, together?

It’s so hard to watch your children struggle.

Not just because you love them—but because, sometimes, their struggles feel personal.

I’ve had moments where I’ve asked myself, what did I do wrong?

Moments where I’ve taken their challenges as a reflection of my parenting.

But I’m learning something in this season…

This isn’t always about me.

Sometimes, I have to step back and allow my children the space to have their own experiences—their own struggles—without making it personal----without trying to carry something that isn’t mine to carry.

I’m learning that my role is shifting.

In these moments, my role is not to fix everything.

It’s to pray.

It’s to support.

It’s to guide, and most importantly, to walk alongside them.

Because what they may need most is not a solution…

but a steady presence.

Their time to overcome will come.

And when it does, I want to be there, not as the one who fixed it, but as the one who witnessed it. I want to be there as the one who stood beside them through every uncertain step.

That’s where the beauty is.

They will face a challenge.

They will learn a lesson.

And they will overcome.

In that process, they’ll begin to understand what I’m still learning myself....

That life is not about avoiding the hard moments…

Life is the lesson.

Every lesson, every struggle, and every breakthrough

is building something greater than we can see right now.

A story.

A testimony.

An adventure worth living

By Karen (Renee) Beatty French